Dating Advice Video: Stop Settling for Men Who Don’t Deserve You!


By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Tinzley Bradford about how to stop settling for men who don’t deserve you. Here, Bradford shares three signs that you’re with the wrong man.

Relationship Author Reveals How to Stop Settling in Dating Advice Video


1. You’re unhappy: “If you’re constantly unhappy with how you’re being treated, you’re settling,” Bradford shares. “Love and a healthy relationship does not create confusion or make you feel unhappy, unstable, or even uncertain.” You should be in a relationship with someone who brings out the best in you and makes you feel good about yourself.

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2. Your relationship isn’t reciprocal: “It takes two to tango, baby!” Bradford exclaims. If you’re always giving but never getting enough back, you’re settling. You deserve a man who loves you just as much as you love him. “He’s got to be doing his part in your relationship,” the relationship author adds.

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3. You feel guilty for being you: “If you’re in a relationship with a guy who’s competing against you, belittling your dreams, and not being excited about your success, you don’t need to be with that person” she shares. You should never be with someone who makes you feel guilty for wanting to shine.

For more dating advice videos and additional information about the Single in Stilettos shows, click here.

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Dating Advice Q&A: Should I Remain Friends with My Ex Online?

Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice Q&A: Should I Remain Friends with My Ex Online?

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Question from Sonya M.: Facebook is the official/unofficial way of announcing a relationship. Is it too vindictive to unfriend an ex, or is that the right move when you enter a new relationship?

Social media is a fun way to share your relationship with friends and family, but if that relationship ends, the waters can get a little murky. Let our relationship experts help by offering their best dating advice for using social media in the right way! Learn valuable dating tips from matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship author Robert Manni. Here, they answer your question about whether or not you should unfriend your ex after a break-up. Check out their dating advice below!

Dating Advice for Unfriending Your Ex on Facebook

Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: When it comes to dating after a break-up or divorce, it’s important to know that removing all traces of your ex on social media isn’t about being vindictive — it’s about moving on.

This is the last step at the end of your relationship, so now is the time for some “spring cleaning.” Daily reminders of him won’t allow you to move forward with your love life, so remember the saying “out of sight, out of mind.” This will remove any temptation to cyber snoop or check in on what he’s doing and who he’s dating. All in all, if you continue to stay connected, then you’re holding on — and this can hold you back from moving forward into another relationship.

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Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: Even though people have become too reliant on social media as their main form of communication, announcing a new relationship on Facebook can feel great and be validating. It’s a nice way of putting something out there about yourself that you feel good about for the people you enjoying sharing with.

On the other hand, if you no longer have an offline connection with an ex and do not feel comfortable posting about your new relationship for them to see, it’s perfectly acceptable to unfriend them. However, if you remain on good terms and they’re cool, there is no harm in staying connected with an ex on Facebook.

There are no strict rules or protocol about this. Listen to your inner compass and do what feels best for you. Good luck.

For more dating advice and to find out more about our dating and technology gurus, click here.

If you have any questions you would like answered by our relationship experts, please e-mail them to cupid@cupidspulse.com.

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Dating Advice Video: How to Get Men to Pursue You Like Crazy

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship strategist and coach Cyndi Olin about three ways to get men to pursue you like crazy. Listen to their expert dating advice in the video above!

Relationship Experts Discuss How to Get Men to Pursue You in Dating Advice Video

1. Smile: With this piece of expert dating advice, Olin reminds us of the saying, “Your presence is a present.” Walk out the door, be present in your body, and smile — and you can attract men like crazy. Eye contact and compliments pair well with a smile. “That’s like a ‘come over’ signal,” she explains. “90 percent of the time, a man will approach you and at least start talking to you. It’s all about your energy.”

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2. Engage with them: “There’s a lot of advice out there, including to let a man lead,” Olin shares. “While I believe that, men are confused when it comes to modern dating.” Men are often very careful as a way to ensure that they’re respecting you. Have a belief deep down in your soul that men are good people, and make an effort to get to know them. Remember: Your vibe attracts your tribe.

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: What Men Want You to Know

3. Let go: After you smile and engage with them, let them be the one to pursue you, to call you more. “You’re not pursuing. You’re a friendly receptor of light,” Olin says. “You want him to pursue you, and he’s looking for permission to do that.”

For more dating advice videos and additional information about the Single in Stilettos shows, click here.

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Dating Advice: Survey Results Are In! What Does it Mean to be Single in America?

Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice: Survey Results Are In! What Does it Mean to be Single in America?

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By Jessica Gomez

What does it mean to be single in 2018? The dating climate has changed. Being single has a whole new meaning. For some, it’s horrible, and for others, an absolute thrill. Whichever side of the spectrum you may fall, you can count on fun surveys to tell you what people are thinking. Norms have changed between men and women due to the internet and technology affecting the way we feel and act when it comes to sex, relationships, and love — and this survey confirms it.

A 2017 study on singles in America, conducted by Research Now and funded by Match, depicts surprising data on the evolution of the dating scene and there’s dating advice in there, too:

Both present dating statistics and the future of dating were among the information gathered from the survey: What’s been going around the internet lately is the invention of sex robots. Are they going to replace us as sex partners? The survey, based on 5,000 people, shows that one in four singles would have sex with a robot. And, nearly 50% of singles would consider it cheating if their partner had sex with one.

The study also found interesting information on what women want and do not want on a first date, along with what’s acceptable and expected in the dating scene. 94% of women want their date to compliment her appearance, to be waiting for her when she arrives (90%), to hug her (82%), kiss her on the cheek (71%) and insist on paying the bill (91% of women approve of this, however 45% think it’s appropriate to split the bill), according to the study. And the most inappropriate thing to do on a date is checking your phone regularly — only one in 10 women think this is appropriate!

That is some of the juiciest information, but check out the rest of the survey’s information HERE.

Are you thinking like most singles and taking into consideration the dating advice of your peers? Comment below!

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Relationship Advice: How to Stay Confident in a Long-Term Relationship

Cupid's Pulse Article: Relationship Advice: How to Stay Confident in a Long-Term Relationship

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By David Wygant

In order to feel confident in a long-term relationship, you need to be in the right long-term relationship for you. If you’re not safe and you don’t feel like you’re being heard, then you’re in the wrong partnership. There’s no way in the world you will ever thrive in a relationship where you feel judged and evaluated at all times. For me — and I’ve been in many long-term relationships — the ones that I always felt most confident in were the relationships where I was actually seen for who I am. If a woman is trying to change you, if she’s trying to make you into someone you’re not, you’re never going to feel confident.

Long-Term Relationship Advice from Relationship Expert David Wygant

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Long-term relationships are some of the most beautiful things you can ever experience, but the only way to have a successful one is to truly communicate who you are. As a relationship expert, I believe that the beginning of a relationship is when you have the opportunity to be who you are and expose yourself. If you’re going to give her a false version of yourself, then her expectations are going to run rampant. And when her expectations run rampant, you’re not going to have a successful long-term relationship. That’s the biggest mistake most people make.

Most people make this mistake because, over and over again, they think they need to misrepresent themselves to “get” the relationship. To me, I expose it all — everything. I reveal all my fears and insecurities because I’m looking for a real relationship, a long-term relationship where I’m able to grow.

A strong long-term relationship is a relationship that’s a mirror. You literally reflect each other each and every day. By doing so, you will show each other exactly what you need to learn. A great relationship will reflect that right back at you. The best relationships are when you grow and when you get out of your own story and are able to create new stories together.

Related Link: Dating Advice for Dealing With the Break-Up Blues

So my best relationship advice for feeling confident is to be ready to express yourself. If you’re not able to talk about who you are and what you want, then you’re not in the right long-term relationship. Now, I can sit here and write another 25 pages on this topic, but the reality is, in life, we need to keep things more simple. And the simple dating advice that I can give you today is that you need to communicate all your needs, your wants, and your desires at the start of a partnership to be fully accepted and heard. Once you do, you’ll feel confident in your long-term relationship.

David Wygant is an internationally-renowned dating and relationship expert, author of the book Naked, and speaker. Through his boot camps, personal coaching, and his website, his love advice has transformed the relationships and love of hundreds of thousands of people from every corner of the globe. 

For more expert relationship advice from David, click here.

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Celebrity Couple News: Lady Gaga & Fiance Christian Carino Share Kiss Backstage at Grammys 2018

Cupid's Pulse Article: Celebrity Couple News: Lady Gaga & Fiance Christian Carino Share Kiss Backstage at Grammys 2018

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By Jessica Gomez

In celebrity news, Lady Gaga and her fiancé Christian Carino were photographed sharing an endearing kiss backstage at the 2018 Grammys on Sunday, according to UsMagazine.com. Gaga was nominated for Best Pop Vocal Album for “Joanne” and Best Pop Solo Performance for “Million Reasons.” The pop star did not win either award, but she did preform a fusion of both nominated songs. And, her future hubby was there to support his lady. Let’s keep our ears open for their celebrity wedding date!

This newly engaged celebrity couple are very much in love. What are some ways to support your partner in his or her professional endeavors?


Cupid’s Advice:

Supporting one another in a relationship is a given! Cupid has some relationship advice on ways to support your partner’s journey toward their career path:

1. Be their cheerleader: Sometimes when following your dreams, things can get rocky, and what we really need is a support system. Be respectful of their feelings and listen to them. Show your partner you understand, support them by acknowledging their negative feelings and encouraging their positive ones. Don’t forget to cheer them on as well. Lift them up when they’re at their lows and their highs. Words of encouragement go a long way.

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2. Offer help: Sometimes your partner may need an extra mind, a different perspective. Sometimes a shoulder to lean on. Discuss the obstacles and the solutions to those obstacles together. Helping them in any way you can in any aspect of their life can help their career one. Be on the lookout and see what your partner may need. You both are a team, and you have to be in it together to win it.

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3. Stay involved: While being a cheerleader and offering help to your partner, you of course have to stay involved. Keep yourself updated with their journey and what’s going on with them mentally and emotionally, and vice versa. Neither you or your partner should become isolated from the other. Pursing a career can take up a lot of time and effort, but staying involved with one another is also important when in a committed relationship. Keep lines of communication open at all times, and keep up with as much optimism as possible!

What ways have you encouraged and supported your partner during their journeys? Comment below!

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Dating Advice Video: Why Smart, Successful Women Can Fail at Love


On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Duana Welch about why smart, successful women can fail at love. “I was in grad school getting a doctorate in the social sciences, and I realized that I was pretty good at that, but I really wasn’t good at love,” Welch shares. “I knew there was something that I was doing wrong — because the common denominator in all of my relationships was me.” Here, she shares three reasons why succeeding at love is hard for so many women.

Relationship Author Duana Welch Is Interviewed in Dating Advice Video

1. The things women do to succeed at work don’t work in the world of dating: At work, women are told to put themselves forward, pursue what they want, and lead their co-workers, but in a relationship, those qualities are often unrewarded. “Research shows that women who routinely pursue men are seen as low-status and not good wife material,” Welch explains. “I hate that!”

“If I liked a man…I was kind of shoving myself down his throat,” the relationship author adds of her own dating mishaps. “Of course, I didn’t see it that way. There’s never been a perfume called Desperation, and there never will be. But in the world of work, that stuff works.”

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: How to Move a Stagnant Relationship to Commitment

2. Some men hold a woman’s success against her: There was a study done where researchers put up two identical dating profiles. One emphasized the woman being young and beautiful, while the other focused on her being an educated, high-powered attorney. Unfortunately, it’s no surprise that the first profile got a lot more hits. “One reason is because men respond to youth and beauty, but it’s also because men are intimidated by women who have achieved more than they have,” Welch explains.

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: Times Women Say ‘Yes’ But Shouldn’t

3. We have a confirmation bias: In other words, we see what we want to see. “You fall in bed and fall in love, and then you find out the dealbreakers,” Welch shares. Instead, spare yourself the pain and take early action to determine your must-haves and dealbreakers. Then, you’ll be able to make a more informed decisions about your emotions.

For more dating advice videos and additional information about the Single in Stilettos shows, click here.

For more videos from CupidsPulse.com, check out our YouTube channel.

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